Why Change Is Hard

We talk about wanting to change so we can live our fullest life but then we don’t. We want that raise, that new position, that prestigious car, that sexier leaner body but we never get’er done. Why?

Simple. Change is HARD! Who wants hard? Some people really do like hard but that’s for another post. The majority of the people on this planet want easy far more than they want all that stuff they keep clamoring about.

There has to be some technique or process we can implement to change the change meter so we can get more of what we want without it being so darn hard.

Absolutely! You have to change what’s hard into something simple because let’s face it, that’s what we really want. Easy. Give us what we want not what you think we need! Why is that concept so hard?

Through my own life of overcoming 24 years of alcoholism, retiring from a successful 25-year career to building a second career as a professional speaker/entertainer and trainer, I have lived through some major life changes. The truth? I really wanted a magic pill but dang if it wasn’t hard to find. Impossible actually. So I gave up.

But good news! I found a simple way to effect change that isn’t too hard. Can I get a SNAP!

Decide what you want but more importantly WHY you want it.
See the big picture but chunk it down into doable and more importantly ACHIEVABLE goals.
Feel instantly gratified and super satisfied as you consistently complete your smaller goals.
Ride that feeling of “I did it. I’m so awesome!” so you can tackle the next goal and the next.
Celebrate your sexy self for reaching your goal and for doing what you thought you couldn’t do! That’s the secret to building your courage, confidence and becoming an unstoppable you.

Now that wasn’t’ too hard was it!
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DeDe Murcer Moffett
The Snap Out of It! Woman

Do White Lies Ruin Credibility?

What's the problem with a white lie, it's harmless and everyone does it. In fact we do it about 7 times a day! We tell little white lies more than we realize or would like to admit. 

But those white lies aren't harmless, they can ruin your credibility especially in my career as a professional speaker but also as a leader, employee or friend.

Top 5 Black Marks of a White Lie

1. When others witness you telling a white lie it lowers your credibility factor even if they really like you.

2. Once you tell a white lie it makes it easier and easier to tell bigger lies more frequently.   

3. As a leader it will become difficult to get a "buy in" from those who see you as someone who fudges the truth.

4. Getting caught in a white lie waste valuable time and energy trying to make excuses to cover your tracks.

5. Consider that your need to tell a white lie comes from the inability to feel uncomfortable with telling the truth.

This week, see if you catch yourself telling a white lie. Hopefully you will reconsider before you get a permanent black eye!

Remember Your Memory Is Wrong

“Memories light the corners of my mind, misty waters color memories of the way we were.” That’s right Mrs. Magnificent Barbra Streisand, memories do color our world but they don’t always get the facts right about the way we were.

According to Daniel Kahneman an Israeli-American psychologist and winner of the 2002 Nobel Memorial Prize in Economic Sciences, our memories, not the actual experience of an event, cause us to label our lives as successful, unsuccessful, happy or disappointing.

But are these memories actually true? How many memories of failure, losing or not living up to someone’s expectations haunt you on a daily basis? Have you ever stopped to question if those memories have been misinterpreted or blurred from the truth? Could it be that you simply believe what you believe and you don’t believe there is any more to question? Or is it that you assume your memory is factual and has gathered all information correctly?

Some memories are too painful to remember and some are simply not true. Memories should be questioned, investigated and measured against the actual experience. As Daniel Kahneman states in one of his lectures, there are two beings within all of us. The first is the experiencing self. This is the self that has one experience after the other and so on and so on until the day we die. The second is the remembering self. This is the self that interprets our other self and assigns meaning and labels to life. The definition of “interpret” according to the Webster Dictionary is: understand (an action, mood, or way of behaving) as having a particular meaning or significance.

Research shows that how an event ends, not the moments within an event determines how you will remember the entire event. If an event ends on a high note, one that makes you feel good you will remember it as a happy successful event. If the event ends on a sour note, even if every second leading up to the sour note is a good experience you will tend to remember the event as unhappy or unsuccessful.

Kahneman illustrates his research in a story of a young man listening to a breathtaking recording of classical music. As the seconds and minutes go by the music takes the young man on a heart pounding journey of loud and soft crescendos that rise and fall like a feather in the wind accompanied by dramatic mood altering melodies. However, at the end of the last song there is a head-jarring screech, a flaw in the recording which snaps the young man out of his intoxicating musical trance. The young man now angry labels the entire experience as ruined and disappointing. Huh? What about all the beautiful moments that had you blissed out in classical nirvana?

So the question is, what happens to all the experiences we experience up to a disappointing moment? How is it that we can have far more good than bad moments in our experience but we remember the entire experience as a failure? How much of our entire life do we actually experience? Are our memories remembering our lives correctly? From Mr. Kahneman’s research we begin to see that life is one experience after the other but the life we remember is a fraction of the event.

So the next time you decide that all is lost, you’re a failure, the event is unsuccessful or your life is an unhappy one, remember what you learned here. Your memory may light the corners of your mind but it’s shinning a light on a very limited truth of the overall beautiful experience.

DeDe Murcer Moffett
Speaker, Author & America’s Favorite Butt Kicker!

Why Critical Thinking is Critical For Your Success

Critical thinking is not about being a negative ninny! Critical thinking is about being able to judge fluff from facts. It’s the ability to stand back and discern what’s real and what’s hype.

Critical thinking helps you to stay safe, keep more of your hard earned money and increase your confidence and courage.

Start practicing critical thinking skills with these top 5 steps.

1. Keep a level of doubt. If you think you know the answers no new and relevant information can present itself.

2. Evaluate options. Don’t take the easy way or worry that investigating other options will make you look ungrateful, cheap or pushy. That’s just being smart!

3. Demand the evidence that supports the claim. We are in a world of photo shop and over inflated testimonials. A true claim provides authentic documentation and evidence.

4. Keep your emotions in check. When thinking critically watch the tendency to get swept away by emotional triggers instigated by those who’s product or service may not stand the critical thinking challenge.

5. Understand that critical thinking is not for everyone. Critical thinking is NOT for those who buy into the free lunch, the get rich quick or magical thinking.

I believe YOU have the ability to think deeper and more clearly than the world would like for you to believe. But for those who want to manipulate you into becoming a “Sheeple” I have a message!

Wake Up, Stand Up & Snap Out of It!

Life Is But A Dream But Move Your Butt with Self Management

Sitting on my back deck looking out at the gorgeous mountains, the beautiful lake and breathing in the crisp clean air, I hear myself chant “I am a millionaire, I feel like a millionaire, I look like a millionaire, I walk like a millioniare” and then I “SNAP OUT OF IT!”

Life is but a dream but you have got to get off your butt to make your dream a reality.

That takes something other than dreaming and that’s self-management.

In today’s fast paced world everyone is looking for an easy way to get what they want and there is no shortage of people that will sell you that shortcut. It has been my experience however that self management is the quickest and most effective way to live the life of your dream!

What is self management and why do we need it? In order to effectively achieve your overall career objectives or the objectives within a given task, you must use clearly defined methods to carry out those activities. This includes the setting of goals, decision making, planning, and scheduling. Once the tasks are completed, you must evaluate the success of these methods.

Continue thinking positive but add these five self-management tools and start mastering the art of self-management to reach your goals and dreams faster!

Be consistent but don’t get stuck! Part of managing oneself is the ability to be stable. But being stable doesn’t mean you never change or get outside your box! Learn to question your limiting thoughts. Think critically, extraordinary claims deserve extraordinary responses and become emotionally intelligent to use emotions wisely.
Stick to the plan. If you are scheduled to complete a particular task, do it. Don’t just do it, but make sure it is done in a timely manner. It is easy to feel out of control when you disregard the plan you are to follow.
Be accountable. There are times when things don’t work out as you plan, but you have to be able to admit that and then use your flexibility to get things back on track. The ideal result is that you easily bounce back and complete the task, but even during those times when this is not the case, you are expected to adjust.
Educate yourself. We live in an ever-changing world and you want to be able to keep up with it. Don’t let change pass you by, embrace it. Be an avid reader. Talk and listen to mentors and peers. They may know something that could help you along your journey.
Read DeDe’s book Wisdom Wedgies and Life’s Little Zingers!
Stay physically fit. Many people don’t think of staying fit when they talk about self-management, but it is a very important part of being able to practice the four preceding points. Exercising your body is just as crucial to self-management as exercising your mind. A body that is not well rested, nutritionally fed, or physically exercised can lead to emotional and physical illnesses.
Sign up for DeDe and Dr. Avery Carpenter’s 6 Week Course “Tasty Toxins and Pretty Poisons – Foods that Kill and Foods that Heal”

Successful Sales Requires You to SNAP!

For skyrocketing sales, SNAP out of your paralyzing mindset and wake up to negative sales habits.

To be a star performer and become successful in sales, leadership or management you must SNAP out of thinking it’s all about product knowledge or possessing certain skill sets. Product knowledge is important but star performers in every category of sales and leadership share a common secret. They understand how to SNAP out of bad habits and transform the behaviors keeping them from achieving ultimate success.

Knowledge does not equal performance. Every sales person knows that follow up is the key to success in sales but business research shows that 50% of all sales opportunities are never followed up on! That means that for every person hired that possesses incredible sales knowledge but not equally incredible performance habits are negatively affecting the bottom line by 50%.category of sales and leadership share a common secret. They understand how to SNAP out of bad habits and transform the behaviors keeping them from achieving ultimate success.

So the question is why would competent and talented sales professionals fail to follow up on potential business 50% of the time? My research and my experience of over 25 years in sales provide the obvious answer. We hate to feel uncomfortable! We will do anything to keep from feeling uncomfortable even if that means losing potential business or sabotaging a successful career.

Feelings and emotions can be the power source or the kill switch to how you behave and perform. How you feel more than what you know determines your success or failure. If you feel confident and secure you move forward, if you fear rejection or criticism you tend to retreat, spin in circles or become paralyzed.

Smart people, talented people and educated people all feel uncomfortable feelings. Star performers however have trained themselves to do one thing 50% more of the time and increasing sales and performance standards 10 fold!

They have learned to feel what they feel instead of distracting from what they feel. The typical response to anxiety or fear is to distract from it. Those distractions can be in the form mental obsessing or physical distractions such as Internet surfing, compulsive eating, exercise, gambling, drinking, texting, tweeting or Facebook.

Performance is the ability to take the knowledge you have and create a powerful vision that ignites incredible enthusiasm and energy to move tenaciously towards your goal. Distractions rob vital energy and drown out the ability to feel authentic passion and raw excitement needed to reach your full potential in both your personal and professional life.

To keep moving toward your goal without procrastinating, getting stuck or sabotaging a great career remember the 4-step SNAP process and Ignite your sales in a S.N.A.P

Step 1. S = Stop distracting and feel!

Don’t try to change it, analyze it, medicate it or sedate it. Feel your feelings! Notice where the feeling is in the body, neck, shoulders, back, stomach or throat. Feel and breathe. Notice how the feeling tingles, grips or ripples. Does it increase in intensity or lessen as you breathe?

Keep feeling what you feel for as long as you can without trying to distract yourself by calling a friend, eating a cookie or calling it a day!

Step 2. N = Notice what you are telling yourself!

Have you ever noticed that as soon as you start to feel anxious, nervous or confused you start making up all sorts of stories that are never in your best interest? Thoughts like “They will never pay the price I’m asking” or “I can’t ask for the sale that’s too pushy” or worse “I’m not smart enough or good enough to make it in this career!”

These stories aren’t truth they are just stories! But you react to them as if they were signed, sealed and delivered truth! You are the thinker of your thoughts, thoughts that are derailing your performance and success!
Snap Out of It! Stop distracting from what you feel and start thinking about what you think!

Step 3. A = Ask Questions

Once you start noticing the stories you are telling yourself interrupt the limiting mindset by asking a question, “Is this really true?” “Who said?” “Is it possible I am wrong?” “Is there another possibility or explanation?” “Did I mis-interpret something or someone?” Regain your confidence and courage to stand up to the fears and anxiety being produced by un-questioned beliefs and thoughts!

Step4. P = Put Yourself Out there!

You can’t become a star performer with successful sales numbers without putting yourself out there and feeling a little uncomfortable. You can’t become a star performer if every time you feel uncomfortable you spend valuable time and energy trying to find something, anything to make you feel better. You can’t become a star performer if you don’t get your head in the game and notice the negative and limiting ways you are using your mind!

Put yourself out there and put these 4 steps into practice to ignite your passion, courage and confidence and watch your sales begin to soar in a SNAP!

Kill Creativity and You Die

creativity2_3936297_lrg Creativity and innovation are the foundation for long lasting success in both our professional and personal lives. Creativity is that thing that makes us jump out of bed in the morning, enthusiastic about the day and willing to take on the world.

Creativity brings us to life and makes all the fears, mistakes and mishaps we encounter along the way worth it. Creativity is that which advances ideas, products and services and helps the world evolve into a more vibrant and interesting place.

“Ability to produce something new through imaginative skill, whether a new solution to a problem, a new method or device, or a new artistic object or form. The term generally refers to a richness of ideas and originality of thinking.” – Merriam Webster Concise Encyclopedia

An even more concise definition is it’s a new way of looking at the same ole same ole! When you get stuck in your box of “this is the way it’s always been” or “this is the way it must be done to be successful” you snuff out the spark that ignites the feelings that infuse creativity and sets the world on fire with incredible, innovative ideas.

We are all creative! Think about it. We create human life, we create our thoughts, we create songs, homes, toys, jobs, vacations, gardens, and so much more. Yes, we are all creative.

What happened to your creativity? Maybe you packed it away into the “no creativity allowed” box. Maybe you decided somewhere along the way being creative wasn’t safe. It happens to the best of us.

Someone tells you that you will never make it or succeed if you step outside the tried and true box of what has always been. You are out of control and must be reigned in and brought to your senses. Someone decides that you need to get a real job instead of becoming a painter or singer or dancer. They scare you into thinking you will be ostracized, alone and weird for being different. Someone laughs at you, rejects you even ignores you because you created something outside of their limited way of thinking.

You would think we would find a creative way to tell them to bug off! But no, we don’t fight for our right to see, be and do things differently. We instead agree with them and believe that they know better. They must know better than we do because they are the “expert” they are the successful one.

So we shut down and shut up. We stop visualizing, imagining and dreaming. We ignore our instinct to expand, to challenge, to innovate and create. As we shut down we become less and less human, depressed, sad and lifeless.

Our world becomes small and our options limited. We become more and more fearful and more reliant on others opinions and direction. We stop being us. We become them. We become the “Sheeple of America” blindly following that furry little but in front of us. And as I say in my Ignite Your Snap Power talk, “that is a baaaad position to be in!” (Get my Snap talk here)

It doesn’t have to happen to you or your business! You have the power to climb out of your box and re-ignite your creative power.

Here are 5 Ways to Ignite Your Creativity

Be curious about what can be
Create something small everyday
Trust your instincts then act
Allow ideas to percolate and collaborate with others
Be different, be bold, be you and be alive!

Being creative is who you are. You were created to create. Kill creativity and you die. Your business dies. Your enthusiasm dies. Your passion dies. The desire to serve others dies. Remember, something always comes out of nothing. So don’t fear the lack of creativity today for tomorrow you just might set the world on fire!

Wake Up, Stand Up & Snap Out of It!

Criticism, Motivator or De-motivator?

Criticism. All of us have experienced being criticized in some form or fashion. Be it a tone, a look, tense body language or an assault of words that cause us to shut up, or shut down and feel downright bad. Many people believe that criticism is a motivator and a type of coaching that will propel the intended target to bigger and better heights. Some just use it for what it is. A soul-crushing spirit killer, causing the intended victim to question their ability to think and act in their own best interest.

Do people understand what they are doing to others when they criticize? Many do not. Most people are simply regurgitating what they have learned from their parents and from their parent’s parents. These are called—beliefs. Beliefs are ideas that we have adopted as truth, never mind they might be totally false. However, once you believe something, you tend to believe that others would be better off if they believed and performed their lives the same way you do. When that doesn’t happen, criticizing is the next best thing to a beat-down.

Before we go much further, let’s differentiate between criticism and constructive feedback.

Leadership expert, John Maxwell has a few tips on separating the two.

1. Who is the information coming from? Someone who is wise, experienced, and successful? Or is it a person who isn’t all that and a bag of chips?

2. What is the tone in which the information is delivered? You can feel the other person’s intent. Is it demeaning and hurtful or caring and generous? Even through syrupy sweet sentences, you can feel the fingers of ill intent around your throat!

3. What were the extenuating circumstances when the criticism occurred? Was the criticizer under duress or pressure? Maxwell states, “Hurting people hurt people.”

Once you have figured out if it was constructive criticism or not then you can decide what to do with the information. I don’t believe there is such a thing as constructive criticism. My belief is, it’s either criticism meant to sway you to another way of being and thinking (theirs), or constructive feedback, meant to lift you up and help you along YOUR path, whether others agree with you or not!

If it’s criticism here are the top 3 things to remember before you decide if you’re defective.

1. We are conditioned from childhood to recoil from disapproval from others. We had to take heed or there would be punishment. Remember you are now the adult in control of your life. You won’t be sent to bed without dinner or grounded for two weeks without phone privileges.

2. It’s a perfect opportunity to see where you are leaking power and are vulnerable to manipulators. Give yourself permission to fail and then take a look at what you believe about your ability to successfully manage your own life. Remember, beliefs are something WE have decided is true. Many times, they are not!

3. I would say feel sorry for the person who is criticizing you, but I know that I still on occasion want to slap the snot out of them. So just recognize the source and remember that in order for criticism to affect us we must believe that the critical person is smarter, wiser, more successful, more talented, more—something than we are. So Snap Out of It!

It’s not likely that you will feel great when receiving criticism, but you can see it for what it really is while you are shoring up your own insecurities that criticism exposes and inflames. And, if there is something constructive that you can walk away with, that’s even better!

As I always say, life is uncomfortable but sometimes that’s exactly the thing that will help you Wake Up, Stand Up and Snap Out of It!

Next blog we will discuss how criticism effects your ability to perform at peak levels and what you can do to start performing like a star!

No Negativity Mantra is a Bunch of Bull!

no-negativity “I will absolutely not tolerate negative people!” This is what I heard recently from a young woman who is on the rise like a rocket into the Internet marketing business. I listened to the nearly 8 minute sales video that centered on how I too could have the money, the health, the travel, the perfect life once I was a graduate from her sales course. But before I could join I must know she has a “Zero Policy for Negativity”.

Sounds great doesn’t it? You want to sign up! This is the person you want to be involved with! Not so fast! Think again! Who gets to determine what is negative? If you voice that you have not been given all that was promised to you are you being negative? If you get a feeling that something just isn’t right and you want to discuss it, are you being negative? If you call someone out on his or her dishonesty are you just being negative? I believe this is one of the best tactics used today to keep people shut down, shut up and basically little sheeple! Baaaaad decision!

Let me explain how setting the precedent for “No Negativity” works to control behavior. Human beings are very uncomfortable when they hold two opposing beliefs. The opposing beliefs cause discomfort in the body/mind and therefore one of those beliefs must give way to the other in order to resume balance and harmony. I call this justification, denial or head in the buttocks but the psychological term is Cognitive Dissonance.

Cognitive Dissonance is a the term coined by psychologist Leon Festinger in 1954 to describe the feeling of psychological discomfort produced by the combined presence of two thoughts that do not follow from one another.

Here are examples of conflicting thoughts that create Cognitive Dissonance

I value financial security – I am in love with a financially unstable guy.
Our Pastor is a man of God – He is making sexual advances towards me.
I am a savvy businesswoman – I have been scammed and taken advantage of.

We cannot hold these two opposing thoughts for very long before we begin to justify one over the other. The mind begins to make excuses for not wanting to face the dilemma starring us in the face. Typically we will justify the part that makes us uncomfortable.

Examples:

I don’t mind if my partner is financially unstable he has so many other wonderful qualities.
I must be causing the Pastor to come onto me or he is really just being caring and loving.
As a smart businesswoman I wouldn’t fall for a sales pitch. Maybe this course or product is worth it.

Festinger states “it is easier for people to change their beliefs than to change behavior patterns.” He goes onto say “people feel motivated to change the uncomfortable feeling created by having conflicting beliefs and behaviors and therefore they look to the easiest way to reduce those negative feelings, resulting in a change of beliefs.”

According to psychologist here are the top 3 ways we resolve cognitive dissonance NOT necessarily in favor of our values.

Find more supportive beliefs that will out weigh the conflicting belief (I paid a lot of money for this product. It proves I am worth it)
Reduce the importance of the conflicting belief. (I don’t need to be financially stable when I have a loving man.)
Change the conflicting belief so that it is consistent with other beliefs or behaviors. (All Pastors make women feel sexy and wanted)

All of us are susceptible to cognitive dissonance but some people are more susceptible than others. But there is a solution!

According to several psychological experiments and John M Grohol, PsyD “people who were extraverted were less likely to feel the negative impact of cognitive dissonance and were also less likely to change their mind. Introverts, on the other hand, experienced increased dissonance discomfort and were more likely to change their attitude to match the majority of others in the experiment.”

Dr. Grohol also goes onto say you may not be able to change your personality but you can change your level of awareness. What have I been saying? Oh Snap! Self awareness pays off! Get Dr. Grohol’s New Book!

Top 4 things you can do to increase your awareness and help reduce the cognitive dissonance in your life.

1. Watch how many times you start to justify or change your beliefs just so you can stop feeling uncomfortable.
2. Listen to how many buts are in your statements! The conflicting belief comes right behind your but!
3. Examine what you value for an extended period of time before making a final decision.
4. When you feel something isn’t right Speak Up don’t keep silent just to avoid being uncomfortable.

So let’s go back to the “Zero Tolerance of Negativity” statement.

If you join the group or the company you are stating that you are NOT a negative person. You are a superstar. You are Mr./Mrs. Positive! So what happens when you have an issue or complaint about services, products or promises? Uh Oh!

You are now in major conflict and cognitive dissonance has set in! You don’t want to be known as a liar do you? Because you said you were positive right? You agreed to “No Negativity”

If you’re a marketer you know this is your best defense against refunds, complaints or bad testimonials from members or attendees. You have just manipulated the minds of those you care so deeply about helping!

You know what I have to say about that? Snap Out of It!!

Wake Up to the fact that your desire to NOT be uncomfortable makes you vulnerable to those who know how to manipulate your discomfort levels.

Stand Up to the people who tell you, you are less than if you point out in discrepancies and bad behavior in your relationships or business endeavors.

Snap Out of It! Don’t give your power away to people just because you don’t want to feel uncomfortable. Have the courage to question what you are told and call a spade a spade!

Only then can you really Wake Up, Stand Up & Snap Out of It and Ignite Your Snap Power!

The Negative Effects of Positive Affirmations

Positively Positive!

I am fit and healthy. I radiate positive energy. I am a money magnet; I am the next top writer, model, chief, speaker, and social media guru! I am successful beyond my wildest dreams! Stop!

Are you really? So why keep lying to yourself? Distracting ourselves from our real pain and insecurities by repeating positive affirmations could be solidifying not alleviating negative programming.

The body mind and soul work in tandem mirroring back to us our authentic self. When we tell ourselves something we really don’t believe we are out of alignment. Feeling this we become less confident, less trusting and sometimes even hopeless.

Canadian researcher, Dr. Joanne Wood at the University of Waterloo and her colleagues at the University of New Brunswick who have recently published their research in the Journal of Psychological Science, concluded, “repeating positive self-statements may benefit certain people, such as individuals with high self-esteem, but backfire for the very people who need them the most.”

When positive self-statements strongly conflict with self-perception, the researchers argue, there is not mere resistance but a reinforcing of self-perception. People who view themselves as unlovable, for example, find that saying they are so unbelievable strengthens their own negative view rather than reversing it.

Repeating positive affirmations may temporarily make us feel better but many times it is an escape from looking at the truth of our thoughts, programming and conditioning.

So if real change isn’t happening then we must ask the question “Are we oblivious to self or avoiding the deeper issues? Dr. Gabor Mate addiction expert and best selling author describes our plight best in his book In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts “A Void We Will Do Anything to Avoid” (Hear my interview with Dr. Gabor Mate)

So is it possible to permanently Snap Out of It!?

Yes! I have experienced it in my own life. Today this principle is the foundation of my SNAP process. I am positive it works!

According to Buddha, Psychologist and Authors like Eckhart Tolle –The Power of Now and Michael Brown-The Present Process it takes acceptance of what we really feel instead of fighting off or fighting with negative emotions and thoughts.

Seems counter intuitive in a world that constantly shouts “ Chin Up! Push Through!” But you don’t need the national statistics on depression and addictions to tell you something is out of whack with this mantra.

Next time you notice you are experiencing a road block in obtaining your goals or dreams try utilizing these 3 steps and see if you don’t jump over that invisible roadblock and Wake Up, Stand Up & Snap Out of It!

Listen and observe the voices in your head that tell you can’t and shouldn’t. Thank them for the information.
Now you have a place to start.
Ask the following questions: Would it be OK if I stopped giving so much weight to the voices in my head? Is it possible what I’m hearing isn’t really true but I have been acting as if it is? And can I allow myself to be uncomfortable while moving towards my goals and dreams?
Allow yourself to feel the feelings you haven’t been willing to feel. (Example: Fear, Loneliness, Sadness) Feel your feelings for as long as you feel them. Don’t worry you won’t get stuck in your feelings. Feelings are Energy in Motion. You only get stuck in the stories you tell yourself about your feelings!

Positive affirmations have a purpose and a place in our lives. But they are most effectively used as a complete program combined with self-awareness and feeling/emotional work.

I am positive that many of you have great stories to share with us about how you have Snapped Out of It! Those stories inspire us all. So post your comments here and share through our social media buttons!

Remember to follow DeDe “The Snap Out of It! Woman” on Facebook for more Snap Out of It! Tips and Wisdom Wedgies!

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