Positively Positive!
I am fit and healthy. I radiate positive energy. I am a money magnet; I am the next top writer, model, chief, speaker, and social media guru! I am successful beyond my wildest dreams! Stop!
Are you really? So why keep lying to yourself? Distracting ourselves from our real pain and insecurities by repeating positive affirmations could be solidifying not alleviating negative programming.
The body mind and soul work in tandem mirroring back to us our authentic self. When we tell ourselves something we really don’t believe we are out of alignment. Feeling this we become less confident, less trusting and sometimes even hopeless.
Canadian researcher, Dr. Joanne Wood at the University of Waterloo and her colleagues at the University of New Brunswick who have recently published their research in the Journal of Psychological Science, concluded, “repeating positive self-statements may benefit certain people, such as individuals with high self-esteem, but backfire for the very people who need them the most.”
When positive self-statements strongly conflict with self-perception, the researchers argue, there is not mere resistance but a reinforcing of self-perception. People who view themselves as unlovable, for example, find that saying they are so unbelievable strengthens their own negative view rather than reversing it.
Repeating positive affirmations may temporarily make us feel better but many times it is an escape from looking at the truth of our thoughts, programming and conditioning.
So if real change isn’t happening then we must ask the question “Are we oblivious to self or avoiding the deeper issues? Dr. Gabor Mate addiction expert and best selling author describes our plight best in his book In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts “A Void We Will Do Anything to Avoid” (Hear my interview with Dr. Gabor Mate)
So is it possible to permanently Snap Out of It!?
Yes! I have experienced it in my own life. Today this principle is the foundation of my SNAP process. I am positive it works!
According to Buddha, Psychologist and Authors like Eckhart Tolle –The Power of Now and Michael Brown-The Present Process it takes acceptance of what we really feel instead of fighting off or fighting with negative emotions and thoughts.
Seems counter intuitive in a world that constantly shouts “ Chin Up! Push Through!” But you don’t need the national statistics on depression and addictions to tell you something is out of whack with this mantra.
Next time you notice you are experiencing a road block in obtaining your goals or dreams try utilizing these 3 steps and see if you don’t jump over that invisible roadblock and Wake Up, Stand Up & Snap Out of It!
- Listen and observe the voices in your head that tell you can’t and shouldn’t. Thank them for the information.
Now you have a place to start. - Ask the following questions: Would it be OK if I stopped giving so much weight to the voices in my head? Is it possible what I’m hearing isn’t really true but I have been acting as if it is? And can I allow myself to be uncomfortable while moving towards my goals and dreams?
- Allow yourself to feel the feelings you haven’t been willing to feel. (Example: Fear, Loneliness, Sadness) Feel your feelings for as long as you feel them. Don’t worry you won’t get stuck in your feelings. Feelings are Energy in Motion. You only get stuck in the stories you tell yourself about your feelings!
Positive affirmations have a purpose and a place in our lives. But they are most effectively used as a complete program combined with self-awareness and feeling/emotional work.
I am positive that many of you have great stories to share with us about how you have Snapped Out of It! Those stories inspire us all. So post your comments here and share through our social media buttons!
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